What is this situation REALLY about?
Why/how is it relevant right now?
How can it be framed into something actionable and solvable?
What judgments of self and/or others need to be worked through so it does not infect or deflect from what really needs to be said?
What can be said AND how can it be said in a way that increases the likelihood that the intended message will be the one received?
What are ways to move forward – even in the presence of fear or uncertainty?
How can the learning from this experience be generalized and applied to other situations?